A couple of years ago, TobyMac did a concert after the Texas Rangers game. It just couldn’t get any better, right?
After the game, we’re told we have to move to the lower bowl for the concert. We struggle through the crowds to get to the elevator. The elevator is broken! I hear the concert begin just as the elevator becomes operational.
On the lower level, we can only find obstructed-view seats from behind the stage. At times we can’t hear because the Rangers’ ground crew is using a tractor on the outfield grass!
As my anger builds, I look up at our original seats on the top deck and there are lots of people seated there! I am furious!
What happened? I saw a Rangers victory. I am at a TobyMac concert. I have a chance to worship God with thousands of people in Rangers Ballpark led by TobyMac. AND. I. AM. MISERABLE!
The problem was expectations. My expectations were so high that all I could see were my expectations failing to be met.
As we work with young people, be aware of expectations. Music, novels, television, and movies set lofty expectations for romance, marriage, and sex.
Even Bible classes, sermons, and sex education set lofty expectations.
- “Save sex for marriage to have the best sex.”
- “Marry a Christian to avoid divorce.”
- “God has chosen the perfect person for you to marry.”
- “My spouse will be my best friend and soul mate.
When our actual romance, marriage, and sex happen, it doesn’t meet expectations. It must be wrong then. So we break up or divorce to continue the quest to meet those expectations. We cannot see how good we have it because we are too focused on the unmet expectations.
You see blessing is not the absence of struggles. It is because of the struggles.
“Consider it pure joy, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.” – James 1:2-4.