When I was two years old, a drunk driver swerved and hit our car head-on. My parents and my injuries were so severe that my grandparents were told my dad and I would not likely live through the night.
None of us were wearing seat belts. We were lucky to survive.
Every memory I have of my dad driving us in the car anywhere is his “obsession” with making sure we all had on our seat belts.
Was my dad a hypocritical parent?
I mean he didn’t wear a seat belt when he was younger. What right did he have to force his children to do something that he wasn’t even able to do when he grew up?!!
This logic is absurd, isn’t it? My dad was now acutely aware of the risks of not wearing a seat belt. He loved his family so much that he would do everything to protect us.
Change the topic from seat belts to sexual activity or pornography or drinking or drug use. The logic of the hypocritical parent is still absurd.
Yet it is one of the top reasons I hear from parents as to why they don’t address these issues: “I can’t ask my children to do what I was unable to do myself.” I am glad my dad didn’t have that problem with demanding that I wear a seat belt.
You should not have that problem either. If you love your kids, do everything to protect them even if it means being a hypocritical parent.
In reality, asking your children not to make the poor choices you made does not make you a hypocrite. It makes you a good parent.