Our kids are not happy cleaning their room, doing homework, or eating vegetables, yet we raise them to do those things anyway.
When our kids start dating, they are not happy when we keep them chaperoned, teach them to save sex for marriage, or set a curfew, yet we raise them to do those things anyway.
As they choose a mate, we are concerned for their welfare, safety, and security in addition to their happiness.
As I reflected on this conversation later, it hit me that the purpose of sex in our culture is “I just want to be happy.” When we are no longer happy, we divorce or go to someone else, turn to pornography or homosexuality.
Is the purpose of sex our own pleasure or happiness?
1 Corinthians 13:5 says “Love … is not self-seeking.”
Ephesians 5:2 says “Walk in the way of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us.”
A few verses later in Ephesians 5:25-31, we are told “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. … For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”
The Biblical purpose of sex is about giving ourselves up for our spouse. It is an attitude of “I just want you to be happy.”